First of all, Happy Father’s Day to all of the fathers out there. I hope you all enjoy your special day. Also, Happy Father’s Day to single moms and other male role models who play father figures as well. I’ve often been told Happy Father’s Day because I’ve played the mother and father role. I’ve played ball with my son, taught him how to ride a bike, played with Hot Wheels, watched boys’ programs and other things boys tend to do with their fathers. I’m not good at Legos so I just tell him to go play with them. I expect my son to grow up with manners and treat women with the respect they deserve.
However, I could not have done all of this alone without my grandfather or uncle. Both play a huge role in mine and my son’s life. My grandfather is a 79 year old man. Yet, he’s taught my son how to ride a bike more than myself. He even fell off his bike and damaged his foot more than before. This led to surgery a couple of years ago. As I’ve mentioned before, he was a paratrooper in the 82nd Airborne during the Korean Conflict in the 50’s. My grandfather also entertains my son by taking him around town on the bus. They go downtown for a bite to eat, the VA hospital, my grandma’s doctors appointments, etc. My uncle helps my son with his homework while I’m at work, plays Legos with him, takes him to Lowe’s or Home Depot to kids’ workshops and so much more. I am so grateful for the wonderful support system I’ve had throughout my life. My grandfather also taught me how to ride a bike at around four or five years old. He and my uncle have done so much for me. My uncle was even brave enough to teach me how to drive a car when I was 16 or 17 years old.
My mom remarried when I was five. My stepdad and I have several years of previous drama but I still give him a lot of credit for teaching me so much. He was patient enough to teach me how to do yard work, fix an air conditioner, fix a flat tire, teach me about sports, help me out with difficult Algebra and chemistry homework, give me tons of good advice on life situations, instill being an independent woman, the value of finishing college and so much more. He also helped me learn how to ride a bike and drive. Our relationship wasn’t always great but he stuck around. I did and said some rotten things, especially in my teenage years. I’ve apologized so I don’t hold any regrets or anything against him for being a hard a** towards me. I guess it is safe to say I turned out alright due to the strong support system I’ve been blessed with. I’ve never gone to prison so that right there is a definite plus. My mom and grandmother have done so much for my son and me as well. I am also extremely grateful for my other uncle. He helped take care of me as well.
Unfortunately, I really haven’t had a great relationship with my father. I was lucky if I saw him a few times a year when I was a kid. It hurt my feelings for many years but there is no going back. I was angry for many years. I felt abandoned and unwanted by him. For many years I thought it was my fault but it wasn’t and it will never be. Am I still angry? No. Have I forgiven him? Yes. There is no point in holding grudges towards anyone in this life because it only hurts the person who is angry. Thank you to him for giving me life. Thank you for the times you spent time with me in my 33 years of life. All of the men and women I’ve mentioned have a huge impact in who me and my son became and our lives. I can’t thank any of them enough for everything. So I will just say thank you and I will never forget all that you’ve done for me and my son. I care and love them all, even if I don’t say it often.
P.S. I don’t intend on putting any of them in a home 😉
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