When You’re Sad, Catching Up

As I’ve mentioned before, I’ve been sad and upset off and on for months now. Things in my professional and personal life are hard at this time. I’m trying to stay positive but sometimes I just break down. I try my hardest to be happy in front of my son. Whenever I feel bad, I try to relax by taking a drive. I also cleaned here and there today. It helped clear my mind. The thing that made my day good was hearing from a friend who lives out of town. I’m not going to use her name because she asked me to respect her privacy. She said it was OK to blog about her but not to mention her name.

Although she lives thousands of miles away in the Midwest, I feel good when she calls me from time to time. Most people just text nowadays. Sure, I’m used to texting but something about a phone call makes you feel good because it’s become rare and almost obsolete. I work on the phone everyday but that’s work. This phone call had nothing to do with work. My friend unfortunately has had her share of health and personal problems for years. I met her around? I don’t remember how long I’ve known her but it seems like maybe 10 years now. I’m glad she’s doing somewhat better and she’s happier. I’m excited she’s moving to a state that’s closer to me in September or October.

She recently married a man from Africa. The ceremony was held in Nigeria in April. I remember her telling me she was going to Africa around the time I started this blog (the end of February). I could not believe it but I went along with it and just said OK. Her family and other friends didn’t know where she was for days. They became worried and to be honest, I was worried for her health and safety too. Although she caught malaria and got very sick, she is doing well now. Unfortunately, her family isn’t speaking to her because she left without telling them.My friend is in her late 50s. Over the past couple of years, I’ve noticed I have older friends. The best friend I had is almost 50. I have a couple of friends who are in their 30s like me but most are older. I enjoy talking with older friends because they offer a lot of good advice and wisdom. They’ve experienced so much more in life than myself. I also enjoy friends who are my age too. They are going through some of the things I’ve gone through like being in a relationship, having babies, working a 9-5, etc. Over the years, I’ve also noticed some family members can also be considered trustworthy friends. I enjoy any friend who is willing to listen to what I have to say. I will always do the same in return.

What cheers you up when you’re down? Do you have friends who are your age, younger or older, all ages? Where have you met some of your best friends? What qualities do you look for in a friend? Until next time everyone!


  1. You’re welcome 🙂 You know what? I think I have this book in my house! I haven’t read it though. The most positive book I’ve read so far is The Secret. I love it! There’s a movie of it too. Thank you for reminding me of this book!


  2. Yes unfortunately :/ I like to be around positive people too. You can feel their great energy. You’re right about meditation. I’m going to look into it. Thank you for your comment and for following my blog 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

  3. We all have these downs in our lives don’t we? Thank you for sharing and being honest with your feeling with us. I like to surround myself with positive people who can lift my spirits. And sometimes meditation helps as well ❤

    Liked by 1 person

  4. When I was your age I also had a best friend in her 50s. I think common attributes such as honesty, respect and kindness can bring friends together and keep relationships strong. A phone call can do a world of good with the right friend. You clearly have one in her!

    Liked by 1 person

  5. Hi Kris thank you for your comment! I like to be alone sometimes but not all the time. I guess you can say I’ve felt lonely off and on lately. Sometimes I just want to talk to someone and other times I’m fine going places by myself. I think I am going to look into volunteering somewhere too. I try and stay strong for my son too. Have a great day! 🙂


  6. Often, it’s complete strangers who cheer me up, usually with a throw-away remark. I’m a bit of a loner. Real friends have come quite by chance and they’ve stayed. Hope you are feeling happier. All the best. Kris

    Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.