Hello everyone! Today’s Saturday Evening Interview is with Deb Riako from DebWas Here. Deb isn’t a stranger here on Life of an El Paso Woman. She contributed a guest post just last month. In case you missed it, you can check it out here. Deb has a diary-type blog. She plans on writing a book about her life experiences. You can take a look/follow her blog here. Let’s welcome Deb to Life of an El Paso Woman!
ME: Tell us about your blog. How long has your blog been around? The idea to start a blog came after spending weeks of my time off work binge watching various YouTube channels. I found some of their lives intriguing and I thought it would be something I would be very good at. Given that am a bit camera shy, blogging seemed (like) the closest I could get to share my personal life with the world. I struggled a bit with the name but finally settled on DebWasHere because the blog is meant to be a personal diary of sorts. I also needed to get back into writing, something I did a lot of some years back and I thought having a blog would push me into consistency. This was my third attempt at keeping a blog and this is the first time I have made it to five months. So that’s a YAY to me.
ME: What can readers expect from your blog this year? What goals have you set for it? I hope my readers will get to know a bit more about me this year. My goals so far are just to keep blogging consistently. Though multi-faceted, my blog posts are mainly connected to the writing of my book. There will be a lot of posts that are more of flashbacks to a time period in my life I am writing about. I hope to complete the first draft of the book this year, so there will also be some update posts. This year is the year I learn to love myself a bit more and I learn a few things about myself as well. So there will be a few posts on the various lessons learned.
ME: Tell us about where you are from. What is it like there? What’s there to do for fun?I’m living in a small coastal town called Kilifi in the Kenyan coast. It is considered a rural area. Since it has a lot of tourists and expats, it has a few things that make it more like a small city than a small town. The best thing about this town is of course the presence of the beach. I love the coastal weather. It’s mostly hot and I can get away with wearing dresses and light wear. I have never been a big fan of the cold so this is the perfect place for me. Being a small town, the number of things to do are mostly limited. It is not that there is nothing to do. I often feel like everywhere I go I meet the very same people, which gets a bit old after sometime. We do hold a few barbecues, movie nights, game nights and potlucks with a few friends every now and again. But when we really need it, we drive to the bigger town 1 hour away and have a splendid night out.
ME: In a word, how would you describe who you are and why? Dependable. I often feel like I spent a lot of my childhood disappointing people. I am always trying to make up for that. I do everything in my power to do right by others, sometimes even to a point that I forget to think of myself. It is both my virtue and my vice in a way.
ME: What’s one of your favorite quotes and why? “Do to others as you would have them do to you.” Jesus Christ I am not religious. Actually, I currently label myself an Agnostic. But these words are the words I choose to live by everyday.
ME: When you aren’t blogging or working, what are you doing? I mostly stay indoors, trying out different DIY projects, sleeping or watching football. Once in awhile, I spend time catching up with friends and enjoying some outdoor activities.
ME: Do you have any regrets in life? If so, what? I have plenty of regrets. The thing about regrets is that if I was to do it all differently, would I be where I am today? It’s a bit of a catch 22, isn’t it? The one regret that sticks to my mind now was not having gone to University and instead running away from home. I learned a lot during those 2-3 years I was away from home, most of which I would have never learnt in Uni. I have a lot of ‘what if’ moments when it comes to this.
ME: What’s your favorite type of music? I tend to love music in phases. I am currently going through a Country music phase. I love music with words I can relate to or that can play up my imagination. Rock and Country have a lot of that so I listen to them a lot.
ME: Who do you look up to in life and why? There are a few people I look up to that cover different aspects of my life. My sister who has faced various adversities and is still going strong. My friends who are in a happy relationship. It gives me hope that real relationships really do exist. Another friend who is teaching me how to love myself without even knowing it. It’s a communal effort, the people I look up to.
ME: What was one of the best moments of your life? Why? When I got my first contractual job back in 2013. I had done my fair bit of casual jobs that paid peanuts. I had only gone to the interview as a way to give my sore back and hands a rest. (The organization was refunding us for the transport and paying accommodation for us). That call telling me I had gotten the job felt like heaven to me. I got to work and guys were complaining about the salary being offered and I was just shaking my head. I knew where I had come from…I really was in heaven.
ME: What do you like most in life? How about dislikes? Beaches! I say this a lot, but it’s because I really do. I also like anything that has me laughing out loud.I hate boxes, and how different people in the world judge others by the various boxes they are currently residing in. So I could say I would like a boxless world.
Me: Is there anything else you would like to add? I am always cautious of happy people. Every time I see someone being too happy, I can’t help but ask-what darkness are they hiding? Mainly it’s because I know my own darkness. I had to do a lot of thinking with this, and in the end I got to realize a few things about me that I hadn’t thought of in a while. So, thanks for that, Lisa.