If you’re on social media, you might have heard about the ‘creepy’ letter that was found on a dorm bulletin board at New Mexico State University (NMSU is my alma mater). Meagan, a 22-year-old NMSU student and Tumblr blogger said she found the following note:
I get it.
You don’t want a pleasant evening chat.
You don’t want a gentleman to walk you to your car.
You don’t want a friendly dude to help you carry your groceries… or hold open the door… or crush the life out of other men that would do you harm.
Fine – fear the good guys… I guess we’ll have to just suffer through watching you get broken over and over by the scum you think you love.
But I want you to know – it’s not easy and it hurts to see you fall.
Give the good guys a chance to help you be less afraid of the world.
Meagan told Buzz Feed she was offended by the note so she posted a response to it on her Tumblr account. Here’s her response to the letter:
If you’re watching some girl you like getting hurt by another guy STOP WHINING ABOUT IT AND DO SOMETHING. Don’t leave some anonymous note on a dorm wall. If you know someone is being hurt DO. SOME. THING.
If you want to play the “good guy” you need to rethink your intentions. If you’re only doing it for gratification, then you aren’t being the good guy. Did Batman give up on Gotham because people weren’t thanking him for saving the city?
You know what I really want? I want respect. I want people to respect that I’d rather not walk with a stranger in the middle of the night. I want people to respect that I can defend myself. I want people to respect that WOMEN CAN DO THINGS WITHOUT A GENTLEMAN TO HELP.
You want to be a gentleman and a good guy? Start with changing the way you and and other men see women. We aren’t fragile things you need to defend. We’re people. Keep holding doors open, keep being friendly, just don’t expect things in return: you aren’t owed anything by this world.
If you want us to be less afraid of the world, then change the world, don’t change us.
Even though she posted her response in January, it was retweeted more than 13,000 times last week. For those who don’t have Twitter, retweet means the note was passed around the web site by more than 13,000 users. The letters appeared on sites like The Telegraph in the U.K. and Buzz Feed. I heard about the letters yesterday on the local radio station, KISS FM. To be honest, I thought Meagan wrote a great letter! What do you think? Would you get offended if you saw the ‘creepy’ letter? What did you think of Meagan’s response to it?
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