‘Creepy’ Guy Letter, Response Makes World Headlines

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If you’re on social media, you might have heard about the ‘creepy’ letter that was found on a dorm bulletin board at New Mexico State University (NMSU is my alma mater). Meagan, a 22-year-old NMSU student and Tumblr blogger said she found the following note:

OK, ladies.

I get it.

You don’t want a pleasant evening chat.

You don’t want a gentleman to walk you to your car.

You don’t want a friendly dude to help you carry your groceries… or hold open the door… or crush the life out of other men that would do you harm.

Fine – fear the good guys… I guess we’ll have to just suffer through watching you get broken over and over by the scum you think you love.

But I want you to know – it’s not easy and it hurts to see you fall.

Give the good guys a chance to help you be less afraid of the world.

Meagan told Buzz Feed she was offended by the note so she posted a response to it on her Tumblr account. Here’s her response to the letter:

Dear Sir,

If you’re watching some girl you like getting hurt by another guy STOP WHINING ABOUT IT AND DO SOMETHING. Don’t leave some anonymous note on a dorm wall. If you know someone is being hurt DO. SOME. THING.

If you want to play the “good guy” you need to rethink your intentions. If you’re only doing it for gratification, then you aren’t being the good guy. Did Batman give up on Gotham because people weren’t thanking him for saving the city?

You know what I really want? I want respect. I want people to respect that I’d rather not walk with a stranger in the middle of the night. I want people to respect that I can defend myself. I want people to respect that WOMEN CAN DO THINGS WITHOUT A GENTLEMAN TO HELP.

You want to be a gentleman and a good guy? Start with changing the way you and and other men see women. We aren’t fragile things you need to defend. We’re people. Keep holding doors open, keep being friendly, just don’t expect things in return: you aren’t owed anything by this world.

If you want us to be less afraid of the world, then change the world, don’t change us.

Even though she posted her response in January, it was retweeted more than 13,000 times last week. For those who don’t have Twitter, retweet means the note was passed around the web site by more than 13,000 users. The letters appeared on sites like The Telegraph in the U.K. and Buzz Feed. I heard about the letters yesterday on the local radio station, KISS FM. To be honest, I thought Meagan wrote a great letter! What do you think? Would you get offended if you saw the ‘creepy’ letter? What did you think of Meagan’s response to it?

For more info., check out: http://www.buzzfeed.com/stephaniemcneal/people-are-furious-about-this-nice-guy-note-a-college-studen#.do99WwvV4

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23 thoughts on “‘Creepy’ Guy Letter, Response Makes World Headlines

  1. His letter isn’t creepy, it’s patronising. Switch the genders around and it sounds ridiculous.

    If you’re a gentleman then why are you only interested in helping out “ladies”? What if a man needed help with his groceries? What if he dated a “bad girl” and needed picking up again after?

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  2. Reblogged this on georgeforfun and commented:
    Maybe I’m just too old, but I see both sides. Sadly both bring out good points, no reason to feel creepy about either side. Maybe the Gentleman was just frustrated at seeing and hearing the complaints of young women who kept dating the same type of men over and over again. Have we as a society become so hardened that showing compassion and concern is considered “creepy?” As a Father of 3 women, an only and older brother/Father of 6 sisters and a Grandfather of 4 young women to be, I can see the lessons from both sides. thankfully my Clan and our immediate circles see my concerns as being compassion, not creepy of stalking……………………………. Then again, I am Olddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddder

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  3. “Keep holding doors open, keep being friendly, just don’t expect things in return: you aren’t owed anything by this world.”

    I expect a “thank you” and I don’t feel that is out of line. I think people would be surprised to learn how very few times I get that simple act of gracious manners in return.

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  4. “OK, ladies.”

    Okay, what?

    “I get it.”

    Good, now share it.

    “You don’t want a pleasant evening chat.”

    Really? Who told you that lie?

    “You don’t want a gentleman to walk you to your car.”

    It would be easier to spot a gentleman if he wore a sign.

    “You don’t want a friendly dude to help you carry your groceries… or hold open the door…”

    Do guys want friendly women to help carry their groceries? Hold open their doors? (By the way, I love to open doors for guys. I usually say, here, let me be a gentleman.)

    “or crush the life out of other men that would do you harm.”

    Maybe some women ask for proof of a guy’s love in this way, but most women don’t want violence perpetuated in their name.

    “Fine – fear the good guys…”

    It would be easier to spot the good guys if they wore signs. (And never took off their wedding rings.)

    “I guess we’ll have to just suffer through watching you get broken over and over by the scum you think you love.”

    Maybe you could have a talk with your bro, this scum, and tell him to stop being scum.

    “But I want you to know – it’s not easy and it hurts to see you fall.”

    You can be a friend and help pick us up — without recriminations and shame — or you can be a dick and point a finger at as when we’re down.

    “Give the good guys a chance to help you be less afraid of the world.”

    And vice versa. Stop chasing after the women who treat you like dog poop. Don’t have kids with women who aren’t prepared to be mothers. Tell all your bros to treat women properly.

    I’m so glad we had this talk. 🙂

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  5. Hey! You have some very good points. I appreciate your comment. I like her letter. She makes some valid points. I hate to say it but at one point, I only wanted to date the bad boys (scum). I think it’s a phase some of us women go through. I’m no longer interested in bad boys though. Lol.

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  6. I think Meagan has issues that run deeper than the “creepy” guy. She said “Keep holding doors open, keep being friendly, just don’t expect things in return: you aren’t owed anything by this world.” At no point in that letter did he state that. I’ve been that guy who has watched him someone he likes get treated like crap. I didn’t write a letter, I went up to her and told her how I felt, and I ended up getting shit on. If Meagan wants to be an independent female, that’s fine, more power to her. But you don’t have to act like a snob to a guy who is spilling his emotions out. There’s not too many of us around.

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