Hey! Quit Calling Me Ma’am or Señora!


Hi everyone! Since I turned 35 in September, I’ve noticed that I’ve been called ma’am or señora almost everywhere I go. OK, I realize I’m not 25 anymore but what the hell? Is 35 the age when you officially start getting called ma’am at the gym, grocery store, Starbucks and almost everywhere else you go? I realize it’s the polite thing to say but I don’t think I’m ready to hear it yet. Come on kids and people, give me another five years! I cringe whenever the 20-year-old at the gym’s front counter says, “Hi ma’am how are you doing today?” when I walk in. Can’t you just say good morning or hello without calling me ma’am? I walk in there in a good mood but end up pissed off before my workout. This isn’t a bad thing because I end up riding my bike faster and get a better workout. Maybe next time I see him I’ll just ask him not to call me ma’am anymore. I guess I can see where he’s coming from because I’m sort of old enough to be his mother. If I were his mother, I would’ve given birth to him at 15 years old. Teenage pregnancy isn’t really a surprise here. There are girls I went to high school with who were pregnant at 15 or 16 years old. Anyway KID…don’t ever ask me to buy you booze (Not that I would anyway! No thank you to getting fined or whatever happens). Twenty is a crappy age to be, especially if you want to start drinking. Anyway…


What REALLY upset me was when a 55 or 60-year-old man called me señora last week. Seriously? Really? You’re 20 or 25 years older than me and there you’re calling me the s word? I almost ran out of the store but I really had to get something. I told my grandparents about my little dilemma and they said being called ma’am or señora is only a sign of respect. Out of the blue, I decided to go for a new look last week. I decided to change my hair color.  Who knows? This woman might be having a mid-life crisis…


First two photos are from Google Search. My hair photo was taken by my hair stylist, Dora Torres.


  1. I remember bartending in Louisiana, where I would always says “Yes, ma’am” to any woman of any age, and then working at an Austin bar with a bunch of New York expats. When I would say “Yes, ma’am” to the New Yorkers, they always thought I was being sarcastic or making fun of them. No worries, though. A short explanation and we all had a laugh.

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  2. Thanks Neighbor! I actually didn’t get called ma’am at Starbucks or Dollar Tree today! I’ll embrace it next time. Thanks for the support! 💖


  3. Neighbor, you will never be old, can you imagine what that would make me? I would embrace this title you’ve acquired. I’m sure there are worst things you could be called, haha, Ma’am and Señora are definitely a sign of respect… Thank them and walk away gracefully, or flip your gorgeous hair do and strut away like the fox that you are.

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  4. Thank you, Wendy! I haven’t heard ‘whipper snapper’ in a really long time 🙂 I’m still getting used to the lighter hair but I like it. Thank you for stopping by!


  5. Hey – as far as I’m concerned you’re definitely a young ‘whipper snapper’ as they say here in the UK! I class myself as ‘middle aged’ at 56 – definitely not at 35! You’ve definitely got a long way to go to the ‘mid-life’ crisis.. haha – Your hair looks lovely though.. xx

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  6. older women tend to lighten their hair as they age…you walked right into additional ma’am’s with that move. Take t for how it is meant..not to say you are old..but to say you are a woman worthy of my respect. for that is all it really means after all.

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  7. lol 😀 the first time someone called me “señora” was when I turned 35 and it was definitely weird! I’m used to it by now, but last month I decided to go blond too, and afterwards a cashier at the supermarket called me “señorita”. Those makeovers really work!! 🙂

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  8. 🙂 I meant to say I realize I’m not 25 anymore but could they start calling me ma’am later on in life? How interesting…I’ve never heard the word, Whaea. Thank you for your comment!

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  9. Here, I get called, ‘Whaea’, Indigenous word relegated for teachers, aunties … ‘older’ peoples that haven’t quite hit old … and I’m nearly 45! I wasn’t expecting any of that till I at least hit 60! … But Im pretty sure 35 is the new 25? Not sure if I read that or made it up … sounds good though 🙂

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  10. I understand where your coming from Lisa, but I would take it as a sign of respect. Some Mom taught that kid to be polite. He might have ignored you or said something less kind. Your hair is cool!

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  11. Yes, it was about that same age I got the “sir” treatment for the first time. A bit of grey on the hair and off I went into “old age.” It was a shock to the system at first. I get where you’re coming from Lisa. If you look at it as respect for being older than someone – rather than being just plain old – it is a little easier to take. But just a little!

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  12. You are much too young to have middle age crisis, Lisa 😀
    Your new hair looks great. I think, that you just need to accept, that you are not looking like a teenager any longer and there for also get respect from other people.
    If they didn’t respect you, which words would you hear then????
    Not better ones, I think.

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  13. Maybe a little! Sometimes I use ma’am or sir or I just say thank you. I’ve never called anyone dude or said old lady or old man. Senorita is a young lady and joven is used for a young man. It’s been ages since someone called me a Senorita. Lol.

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  14. Dude, are you having an early midlife crisis? I don’t notice when people call me ma’am. But as far as the terms I use, I grew up in Texas, so I always use “sir” or “ma’am,” no matter what the age of the person I’m addressing. Don’t you do the same? (Now that I think of it, I probably call people “dude” more so than sir or ma’am.)

    If I’m addressing someone younger than me, maybe I’ll use the terms “young lady” or “young man.” However, I don’t address those who are older than me as “old lady” or “old man.” 🙂

    But I’ve changed from using “thank you, sir or ma’am” to “thank you, kindly.” I don’t want to assume that someone is a certain gender.

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  15. Thirty five is hardly old, but is the prime of life. I suppose to the 16 year old bag boy at the grocery store that seems “old” or at at least an age where they are taught to show respect by saying “ma’am”. It happens to me, at first I was , omg, I am old. but I realize it is really just a sign of respect or if they don’t really know how to refer to you. Rock on lady, you are far from old with many exciting experience ahead!

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  16. Haha!!! I know how that feels… lol! Get used to it, it will only occur more than less! But I go with you. Also it is really shocking when a more than 20 years older lady says it to you!

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  17. I love this! I’m turning 34 this year and I know its a sign of respect but it makes me feel so old. Lol! I may need a change in the hair department as well. Too soon for a mid-life crisis. 😛 Btw love the do.

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