Rest in Peace, Angels

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Hi everyone. I hope your week was good. Mine wasn’t too bad except for a couple of things. I would have to say this is one of the hardest posts I’ve ever had to write in the blog. My neighbor and friend lost her only son in a motorcycle accident this week. He was on his way to church when he lost control of his motorcycle and hit several wooden posts. I can’t even imagine what he went through.

I couldn’t stop crying when she told me he was fighting for his life in the hospital throughout the week. He underwent several surgeries but unfortunately lost his life at 24 years old. Although he was also my neighbor for a short while, I didn’t know him personally. From what I saw, he was always smiling and happy. He always said hello to me whenever I saw him. I hadn’t seen my neighbor for days because she was in the hospital with her son. She didn’t have to tell me he passed away because it was on the news. I eventually went to tell her and her daughter (who was her son’s twin) I was very sorry for their loss. This was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do in life so far. I took them some food and a card. It was the least I could do. There were more tears and pain on Thursday morning. I couldn’t even focus at work all day long. My friend showed me several photos of her son as a baby and teenager. Her son and daughter celebrated their birthday just a few days before the accident. 

I don’t think I’ve ever cried for a stranger so much. I don’t think I’ve ever cried at a rosary in my life except for this one. I usually hold in my tears for when I’m alone. I don’t know if I cried because I felt bad for my friend or because her son was young and had his whole life ahead of him. I don’t know if I cried because I have a son too. I might have cried because of all of the above. I might have also cried because she’s a strong, single mother. I can’t even imagine the pain my neighbor is going through. All I can do is pray for her and her family. All I can do is be there for her when she needs a hug and/or a shoulder to cry on. All I can do is take her a meal so she can hopefully forget about the pain and heartbreak for a little while. I think God took this young man from us too soon because he was truly an angel with a heart of gold. The entire funeral home was filled with people who loved this angel. There wasn’t anywhere to sit or stand for long. I’ve never been to a rosary that’s been full inside and outside of the building. 

God also gained another angel last week because my boyfriend’s dog passed away. This has been really hard on my boyfriend, his family and me. I haven’t cried for a dog since I lost my favorite childhood dog when I was in college. My boyfriend is taking it really hard. She will truly be missed by us. I will miss her loud bark, taking her on walks, her sitting on my lap, feeding her, her lying down with me and her company. I’m positive God gained two more angels by his side this week. I know both of them will be looking down. Rest in peace, angels. Please protect us from harm and evil, angels. Say hi to my good friends Johnna and Erika, along with my other loved ones there.

If you would like to donate funds to my friend’s family, you can do so here. Any amount will help them cover funeral and/or medical costs.

 

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25 comments

  1. That’s a good idea, Lisa. This is the kind of sudden violent loss of a child or parent can lead to years of depression and guilt. Gestures of kindness, especially with food can do alot to mitigate the terrible feeling of isolation that some people feel in the early stages of grieving.

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  2. So true, Rob. She’s not doing too well 😦 I don’t think it’s something you can ever get over. I’m sure it hurts her a lot right now because she had to bury him two days ago. They also had a memorial yesterday. I saw her today and just gave her a hug. I asked her if she wanted some food and she said yes but I don’t think she was home so I said I will take it to her tomorrow.

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  3. I think it’s really hard at any age. It might even be harder if their child is a baby or younger. My neighbor is really religious so I’m very sure that will help her a lot.

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  4. I think there is nothing that can ever totally heal the pain of losing a child. For sure it is all, feeling with your neighbor and relating to the pain since you are a mother. There is nothing that can be done than being there for her that she knows she doesn’t need to hold back anything and just can talk and cry and whatever… It is a long process and one day she will find a way to let this have a place in her life but I don’t believe that something like that can ever heal. Although I don’t know the people I am crying too writing this. Perhaps right because it is the worst thing that can happen to a parent. Sending her and her family all my love and also to you, your boyfriend and his family for losing a beloved part of the family 💖

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