Contacting the Dead and a Little bit of Romance!


Hi everyone! Happy Halloween! I hope you’re having a great day! I recently wrote a story about contacting the dead for What’s Up Weekly. Since it ties in with Halloween and even #RomanticTuesday, I want to share it with you. Do you believe in contacting the dead? Do you have any experience with it? Please feel free to leave comments…if you dare! Feel free to check out What’s Up Weekly for other great stories about Halloween and Day of the Dead.

Locals find closure by contacting the dead

By Lisa Amaya

Cultures throughout the world regard this time of year as a time to connect with deceased loved ones. Most well known, of course, is All Hallows Eve, a time when the veil between the living and the dead is at its thinnest.

Local psychic medium Dolores Whitaker said she’s helped people contact their loved ones for six years. What was once feared as a child is now seen as a gift to help grieving clients.

“People come to me for various reasons,” Whitaker said. “They want closure. They want to know why a loved one’s death was sudden. Some have a deep fear of their loved one being hurt or being stuck somewhere unsafe.”

 Whitaker uses her skills at the oddities and art gift shop Dreadful Things and does readings around town and at clients’ homes. Depending on the spirit, meetings can last from 20 minutes to an hour. Those who want to contact the dead without a medium’s help should take extra precautions to protect themselves from negative spirits and situations, Whitaker warned.

Aside from contacting the departed, she also does cleansings and what’s known as past-life regressions – a guided hypnosis that believers say walks them through their former lives in order to help them through their current ones.

Spiritual counselor Diana Calamia said she’s helped her clients reach their dead loved ones for nearly 32 years.

“Our loved ones contact us using the five senses,” Calamia said. “For example, one (spirit) might get in bed with them. They might be able to smell them. When my mother passed away, we smelled smoke in the living room.”

When asked if the smell of smoke scared her, Calamia said, “I’m more afraid of the living than the dead.”

Calamia warned that using a Ouija board can bring in poltergeists or noisy ghosts, along with negative situations and spirits.

Many believe that connecting with the dead brings the opportunity to heal. Briana Salas said she reached out to her late husband twice with Whitaker’s help. Salas wanted to contact him because his death was sudden. What she told her husband’s family about their connection helped put them at ease during his rosary, she said.

“It’s been an amazing experience with Dolores,” Salas said. “It was like I was talking to him. He was the love of my life and my best friend.”

During her time with her, Salas said she knew Whitaker reached him because of the comments, sense of humor and mannerisms she picked up on. The couple even joked around about making pottery together like in the movie “Ghost.”

El Paso artist and Dreadful Things owner Francella Salgado said she’s had her fair share of spirit connections. If you ever visit her shop – located at what used to be a home around 100 years ago at 2226 Montana Ave. – don’t be surprised if you encounter any spirits, Salgado said. She’s seen random incense smoke in the air and a small boy she refers to as Joseph.

Through Whitaker, Salgado said she contacted a former Indian chief who passed away five or six years ago.

“I love him so much; he was family to me,” Salgado said. “I was thinking of him for a while and knew it was him. This sh*t is real.”

“None of this stuff scares me at all,” she added. “I embrace it and welcome it. I cried my eyes out and became emotional when I knew it was him.”

Salgado participates in Danza Azteca Omecoatl, a group that does indigenous dance ceremonies and both private and public events.

“Our dances were passed down thousands of years ago,” Salgado said. “Our dances represent prayers and elements. We are warriors of our community.”

For Dia de los Muertos, Salgado and other group members set up altars and photos to honor those who have passed.

“Life is supposed to be a celebration, but we don’t celebrate ourselves enough,” Salgado said. “We forget to do that. This is a reminder to honor and celebrate us and the dead.”

Photo from Pexels


  1. I will let you know if I have any feelings but they are just random. They come to me while I am awake. Once I looked at the clock and said that a relative wouldn’t make it to a family wedding. He had died at exactly that time.

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  2. Aww! A lot of kids used to come over here but not that many come anymore. A lot of families from Mexico would also come. El Paso is supposedly voted as one of the best places to go trick or treating in the U.S. I’m not sure about that. Lol.


  3. I went trick or treating with the kids when they were little. Just in the close neighborhood and we enjoyed it. It looked for some years that there may be more kids joining in. But today I bought the candies in vain again… It is what it is…

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  4. I like your take, very timely! Happy Halloween and have a lot of fun. I will enjoy the evening with my youngest son and hope I can talk him into watching a creepy movie… lol!

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  5. Same to you. Actually, no plans for tonight. This is the first year none of mine are trick or treating. They had a Halloween dance at school last Friday and a party at a friends house Saturday. Seems weird not doing anything for Halloween night thought. 😃

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  6. I am both intrigued and frightened by this stuff. My family was into psychic readings,Ouija,tarot cards, palm reading, etc. My sister went for a past life regression and was told she and I were leaders of opposing armies in ancient times. (explains our difficult sibling relationship???)

    Happy Halloween, Lisa.

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  7. I’ve never been to a medium myself, but the one my wife visited was scary accurate, on things she couldn’t have possibly known. Our house? Man, too much stuff to write out, but there’s been odd things happen since the very first day we moved in. 😃

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  8. Really?? I’ve only done readings for ‘entertainment purposes.’ What makes you believe your house is haunted? Some weird things were going on at my boyfriend’s house a few days after his grandma passed away. The light turned orange a couple of times. He said she wore orange nail polish often. Ice was also falling out of the freezer. The TV would go on and off. He thought I was taking his money but found it in another room! 😂 I was like you know I don’t steal! If I want money, I’ll ask you for it. He thinks it’s his dad too. He passed away when he was 11. I asked him if we could go to one of these mediums but he won’t do it. Lol.

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  9. My wife has been to a medium before. The only thing she asks is your name. That’s it. The things she told my wife were uncannily accurate. She made me a believer. I’ve always believed in the supernatural though. I firmly believe our house is haunted, in fact. 😃

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